Planning Your Wedding: How to Compromise
Making compromises is often an essential part of planning a wedding. Sometimes you will need to compromise with each other, sometimes the compromise will need to be made with your families. But how do you ensure that you end up with a wedding day that makes everyone happy?
You may have read in the news lately that a couple have received backlash from their friends and family for planning to hold a sunrise beach wedding ceremony at 5.30am. Posting on Reddit, the couple explained that they wake up early each year on their anniversary to go to the beach and watch the sunrise together, and that the special tradition is one they wanted to incorporate into their wedding.
The post divided readers, with many siding with guests who simply thought it was unfair to expect guests to attend a dawn wedding, and others suggesting that the couple should do what they wanted to for their special day regardless. However, the most popular response came from a user who suggested the couple have a private ceremony at 5.30am, followed by a second ceremony at a more reasonable time for the guests.
As any married couple will tell you, making these kind of compromises is an essential part of planning a wedding. Sometimes you will need to compromise with each other, sometimes the compromise will need to be made with your families. But how do you ensure that you end up with a wedding day that makes everyone happy?
Ask for each other’s opinion
This might seem obvious, but we often find that one partner takes a back seat during the planning process to avoid annoying their other half. While this may be because they care less about certain aspects of the wedding day, it is important that you ask each other for your thoughts during the decision making process, so that neither of you feels left out.
Furthermore, give each other’s opinion some serious thought. While one of you might have had your heart set on a particular colour palette since you were a child or can’t imagine walking down the aisle to anything other than a string quartet, sometimes you might have to let go of these ideas in order to pick something more suitable for you as a couple.
Take on responsibility for tasks
While shopping for bridesmaids dresses or picking the ideal table linen might not appeal to many grooms, there are other tasks that they may be happy to take the lead on, from picking the drinks menu to booking a band. Ensure that wedding tasks are split fairly between you so that you can both take ownership of the day you’re planning.
Consider the needs of your guests
Being a wedding guest is increasingly expensive – from a new outfit, travel and accommodation to buying a gift, some will spend hundreds of pounds on attending your special day. It can also be difficult logistically – childcare and time off work aren’t always easy to arrange. While it’s not rude to invite someone to your celebration, be mindful of their needs if they are unable to attend for practical reasons, as is often the case for destination weddings or adult-only celebrations. If having your family and friends there with you to celebrate your wedding is important to you, then there are compromises you might have to make to ensure attending is a feasible option for them.
Get advice from a professional
If you’re unable to reach an agreement on how to proceed with a certain aspect of your wedding planning, then it might be worth asking an expert for their take on the matter. At The National Piping Centre, we have created dream wedding days for many couples, and with years of experience might have a solution up our sleeves that you wouldn’t otherwise have thought of!
Focus on what’s important
While making compromises can be hard and your wedding day might not look quite how you always imagined it would, it’s important to focus on the fact that your wedding is the start of your new life together. The day should be about the two of you and your families coming together to celebrate your union – you’ll likely forget about the small details in time, but you’ll never forget the feeling of having all of your nearest and dearest there to share in your joy.
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