Wedding Planning: Looking after your Mental Health
When we talk about weddings, we speak of couples having the happiest day of their lives, where everything goes perfectly for them as they embark upon married life. Is this realistic? The evidence would suggest perhaps not. With 96% of couples stating they were stressed out by wedding planning, it seems that the pressure of living up to the fairytale gets to almost everyone. Wedding planning is widely considered to be a stressful task at the best of times but for the 1 in 5 of us who experience mental health issues, this pressure can be suffocating. Of course, your wedding should be a happy occasion, and to make sure you experience it as such, it’s vitally important to look after yourself while planning. To mark World Mental Health Day, we thought we’d share some tips on how to do just that…
Talk to your partner
There shouldn’t be a stigma associated with your mental health, so don't feel ashamed to admit when you’re struggling. Feeling overwhelmed by the multiple demands of planning a wedding isn’t a reflection on your relationship or your feelings for your partner, and being honest with them can reduce the stress you feel. Your partner should understand you better than anyone, so make sure that you’re honest with them.
Don’t feel guilty
While planning a wedding can be incredibly fun, it’s easy to become overwhelmed by the amount you need to do, especially if you’re not an experienced events professional. It’s unrealistic to expect to enjoy every detail of the wedding planning process, so it’s important not to feel guilty when you find that there are things you don’t like.
Log off social media
Instagram and Pinterest are amazing sources of inspiration when wedding planning, but if you find yourself comparing your plans to others and feeling down about it, then log off! Remember that most people only share the good stuff online, and while the lives of others may seem perfect from the outside, that doesn’t necessarily mean that they are. Don’t miss out on moments of happiness in your own life because you’re too busy looking at carefully curated versions of other people’s lives on Instagram.
Make things easy on yourself
With blank space venues and DIY décor dominating wedding trends, it’s normal to feel some pressure to carefully curate every detail of your big day, but there’s no obligation! Finding the perfect suppliers to help bring a fantasy wedding together can be time-consuming and stressful – one alternative to this is to ask your venue for their recommendations. Not only will this reduce the stress of researching and booking your suppliers, they’ll already be familiar with your venue. This will help ensure that everything goes to plan on the day itself - leaving you to get on with celebrating!
Accept help from others
Your bridesmaids and groomsmen should be a source of support in the run up to your big day, so don’t be afraid to ask them for help! This can be easier said than done, as feelings of worthlessness are a common feature during periods of poor mental health, but those who love you will want to help in any way that they can. Whether that’s taking on the tasks that are causing you worries or just popping round for a cup of tea and a chat when it starts to feel too much, allow them to help where they can.
It’s also worth considering hiring a wedding planner or coordinator. All weddings at The National Piping Centre include full event coordination from one of our expert team, and we’ll work closely with you to ensure that your big day is just as you’d dreamed it would be. Using our network of contacts and suppliers, we can help reduce a large amount of the stress of organising individual details, without you losing control over the overall vision, giving you the best of both worlds.
Give yourself a break
When there’s so much to do, it can be easy to let wedding planning take over your life, but the more you do this, the more difficulty you’ll have making decisions. Breaking your to do list into smaller chunks and tackling items a few at a time instead of dedicating a whole day to wedding planning can help make the tasks seem less daunting. It’s also important to schedule time for activities other than wedding planning. Your wedding is happening because you’ve found someone who wants to spend the rest of their life with you, so ensure you look after yourself and make time for activities together, as your lives shouldn’t be put on hold until after the wedding.
Look after yourself
If your schedule looks increasingly crammed as you try to stay on track with planning, it can be easy to sacrifice your own well-being to try and get stuff done: maybe you’re skipping meals so you can do wedding tasks on your lunchbreak or you’ve cancelled your gym membership to save money. Such quick fixes can prove to be counter-productive if your overall well-being suffers as a result. Eating a nutritional meal and making sure you get enough sleep can go a long way towards helping you deal with any challenges that come up while you’re planning your wedding.
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